Who Will Have the Kids at Christmas?
As a parent, the most special time of year is Christmas. When you go through a separation it’s often the case that both parents, understandably, want to spend as much time as possible with their children during this time. Both parents want to be part of the excitement of Christmas morning. This can often lead to conflict and disagreement.
Family Mediation can help you reach a joint decision over the arrangements for Christmas. Within Mediation we can consider;
- Both parents’ individual circumstances including living arrangements and work patterns and festive traditions/routines.
- The practicalities of the arrangements being proposed by both parents.
- Alternative options you may not have yet thought of.
- How the children may feel about the arrangements being proposed.
- How to tell the children about the decisions which are made in Mediation.
- How to manage practical issues around the festive period (attending nativities, buying presents, seeing extended family).
The reality of a separated family does mean you will need to create and agree new routines. Remember the children will want to see both parents over this time and that it is possible to create special memories whether it is 25th or 27th December when the children see you. Trying to be as flexible as possible and trying to understand your ex-partner’s point of view will help you come to a solution with the help of the Mediator. Above all, try to think about how your kids are feeling and what they would both want during this time. As they grow older and begin to understand adult relationships, both parents will want them to reflect on this time and appreciate that their parents were able to come to an agreement on these issues even if it meant having to compromise on their ideal Christmas.
If you wish to attend Mediation to discuss Christmas arrangements, it’s important you contact us as early as possible to give both of you plenty of time to take part in the Mediation sessions and have time to reflect on the proposals made in those sessions.
We’re taking part in the UK Government Voucher Scheme which offers £500 towards CHILD or CHILD AND FINANCIAL mediation sessions.
Who Will Have the Kids at Christmas?
As a parent, the most special time of year is Christmas. When you go through a separation it’s often the case that both parents, understandably, want to spend as much time as possible with their children during this time. Both parents want to be part of the excitement of Christmas morning. This can often lead to conflict and disagreement.
Family Mediation can help you reach a joint decision over the arrangements for Christmas. Within Mediation we can consider;
- Both parents’ individual circumstances including living arrangements and work patterns and festive traditions/routines.
- The practicalities of the arrangements being proposed by both parents.
- Alternative options you may not have yet thought of.
- How the children may feel about the arrangements being proposed.
- How to tell the children about the decisions which are made in Mediation.
- How to manage practical issues around the festive period (attending nativities, buying presents, seeing extended family).
The reality of a separated family does mean you will need to create and agree new routines. Remember the children will want to see both parents over this time and that it is possible to create special memories whether it is 25th or 27th December when the children see you. Trying to be as flexible as possible and trying to understand your ex-partner’s point of view will help you come to a solution with the help of the Mediator. Above all, try to think about how your kids are feeling and what they would both want during this time. As they grow older and begin to understand adult relationships, both parents will want them to reflect on this time and appreciate that their parents were able to come to an agreement on these issues even if it meant having to compromise on their ideal Christmas.
If you wish to attend Mediation to discuss Christmas arrangements, it’s important you contact us as early as possible to give both of you plenty of time to take part in the Mediation sessions and have time to reflect on the proposals made in those sessions.
We’re taking part in the UK Government Voucher Scheme which offers £500 towards CHILD or CHILD AND FINANCIAL mediation sessions.